“Respect your parents. They passed school without Google.”
Picture this. A group of adults gathered for food and conversation at my daughter’s house. In our midst was a couple I’ve never met before. One would think I’d be on my best behavior. One would be wrong.
For some reason the gentleman of the couple began to share his dilemma of how to get his parents to downsize. Seems his parents were living in a three bedroom house that they built and were spending three months a year in Florida and didn’t live close enough to baby sit for them. That last part is my interpretation.
He said two bedrooms would be enough for them in light of their age. I could have left it at that until he brought up the age thing. “How old?” I asked. Seems they’re both about 10 years younger than my own self. Alert!
To be fair, I thought I should look at both sides. This man and his wife and their son and crabby dog (their assessment) live in a 5 bedroom house. However, they are seldom at home because of the jobs they hold that allow them to own the aforementioned piece of real estate.
Mental conversation that I, blessedly, didn’t say out loud… Why don’t you sell your oversized house and get rid of all the stuff that keeps you working so many hours etc. etc etc! Maybe everyone in your family would be better off if blah blah blah.
I’m over reacting. It’s so easy to imagine what, we think, is best for others. It’s also not that easy to sort out wants and needs. Looking into my closets gives me insight into that. And finally, it’s important to remember that my kids are now watching me closely for signs. I’m at that age! HELP!
Loveya – The Grandma
Artist, African hand drum student, yoga neophyte, and Grandmother of 22 or so grandchildren. I enjoy cooking and writing. I value good friends and quiet times for reading.