“Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.” Karl Barth
Research (really!) has shown that humans lean toward negativity. Perhaps this was helpful in the past when people-eating creatures roamed the earth and it was necessary to be alert to whatever could go wrong. But now, when this attention is no longer necessary, we still seem to use our negative seeking radar to run our lives.
To illustrate … A performance review might contain a half dozen positive statements about the person being reviewed. However, if there is one negative sentiment it seems to stick with the person unless, of course, that person is a narcissist with selective hearing. Not naming names.
Research (again) has found that if a person is told they need a surgical procedure and the success rate of the procedure is 70%, they will generally give the doctor the go ahead. However, if they are told that there’s a 30% chance the procedure will not succeed, they generally decide against it. This gravitating toward the negative seems to be the way humans operate.
So why work to create a positive attitude? Because, according to (yes!) research, a positive attitude combats aging, supports a healthy immune system, and reduces the risk of death from heart disease. Happy hearts live longer!
A picture of my dad when he was in his mid-nineties and wearing his favorite hat!
So how can a person accentuate the positive in their life? Simple. It’s that old gratitude habit. Everyday write down two or three things you’re grateful for. Or, get yourself a gratitude stone and every night, at bed time, hold the stone and review your day. Think through all the good things that happened. Pick out the goodest!
People will eventually noticed and maybe ask, “How come you’re such a pleasant person? Would you like a raise?” Or maybe the kids will talk behind your back, wondering why you’re now keeping stones the house. There comes a point when they begin to closely watch your behavior.
The answer. A dish of stones. An acceptable accoutrement. You might even start a new fad. Aren’t you the stylish one.
Loveya- The Grandma
Artist, African hand drum student, yoga neophyte, and Grandmother of 22 or so grandchildren. I enjoy cooking and writing. I value good friends and quiet times for reading.